A bit of a "get it off your chest" post really.
Just back home....
We took MIL (wonderful lady in her mid 90s) to A&E this evening as she wasn't feeling well.
Turns out she is not well and is currently in ICU being very well looked after by a very caring team there.
Whilst waiting with MIL, a young lady - early 30s from the DOB given, was brought in.
Dreadful, dreadful injuries. Police officers escorted her and stayed in-case the perpetrator finds her in hospital.
There didn't appear to be one part of her that wasn't injured and the team there were doing everything they could. They were arranging to transport the young lady to a major trauma centre at some point tonight when she's more stabilised.
I had to leave the room - I don't mind saying I felt physically sick and upset - how could anyone do something so horrific!?
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You have my complete sympathy, though I have never been witness to anything as disturbing as you describe.
My wife was in hospital for 82 days last summer and over that time there was plenty that was disturbing, including of course the fear that she would die. Other patients in the ward came and went. Solicitors turned up, presumably to get wills signed. One patient died right next to her, another opposite. There were cases of dementia.
But nothing as horrific as you saw.
Months afterwards, my wife and I realise we have been emotionally scarred by the experience.
If you feel you need to seek help I would recommend you do do. We're talking about PTSD here.
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We are isolated from those realities of life and death that were part of everyday existence for our ancestors. We live in a sanitised world.
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Generally speaking, hospitals are unhealthy places.
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I was expecting there to be something on the local rags' website today about someone being beaten up etc. but nothing.
MIL has been transferred to a hospital a couple of towns away (22 miles).
Likely that she will be having a pacemaker fitted today or tomorrow.
It's unlikely that they will resuscitate her if anything goes wrong.
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When Mrs FC retired from the job she said, "I now just want to live in that bubble where the vast majority of the population live. Where the biggest complaint at public meetings is dog s*** and kids playing football".
You have just witnessed the reality of life all too familiar to some including, I'm sure, Miss Z.
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Here in Colchester there are regularly police present at A&E to tame the beligerants and the DUI's who have injured themselves.
However during Covid I saw the inside during my stay in intensive care on a Covid ward where the dedication of everyone from the cleaners to the nurses to the Doctors was eveident.The trainee nurse on her 2nd shift who was a bit nervous but got on with it to the Registrar who was plainly terrified but still got on with it.
Bless each and every one of them and espescially my very own Florence who told me when i became aware that I was still alive... Mr B.. we share the same birthday..
So a few months later and for the next few years till she left,, We remembered her birthday too !
My brother died in Nov 2024 and had spent 30 days of the previous 18 months OUT of hospital.
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Thx FC, Miss Z often tells me of the sad aspects oof the job. Luckily usually she only sees it when on call i.e. off her normal ward and is bleeped to A&E.
I don't know if you recall but she was involved in a headline murder / attempted murder, effectively the only surgeon until consultants were called in from home. She also praised the theatre team for dropping everything to help her and the victim. It did effect her and everyone else involved from ambulance paramedics, response police, nurses and theatre staff.
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When going to hospitals and other places I am aware of those signs that read along the lines of "don't abuse our staff"...
It beggars belief.
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Yeah son works for the ambulance service, I can't stand the sight of blood (think Doc Martin) and some of the stories are horrific. My wife is a nurse so often when he comes in and I ask how things were today he says fine but then I hear him going into gory detail with the wife!
But sadly some of the stories of abuse, both verbal and physical to staff, but also to the system he tells are horrendous. In fact he has just returned to work yesterday after being off with a shoulder injury after being assaulted by someone wanting to end their own life.
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Today I have a 94 year old bionic mother in law who, 12 hours after the operation is calling asking for her son in law to give her a lift home later today when she gets the all clear from the docs.
:-D
Apparently my car is more comfortable then Mrs Z's or the sister in law's!
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Good luck to your MiL. My wife had one fitted last year.
Don't know if you know this already but she'll be sent home with a device about the size of a mobile phone. It needs plugging in beside her bed and will report back to the hospital how the bionic implant is performing. When she goes back for her checkup, they'll be able to adjust it accordingly, if necessary.
If your MiL appreciates being wound up, tell her it's the Chinese keeping track on her.
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>>If your MiL appreciates being wound up, tell her it's the Chinese keeping track on her.
Thanks! It's now on the list!
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>>Apparently my car is more comfortable then Mrs Z's or the sister in law's!
I had surgery on a delicate part of my anatomy, below the waist. On the journey home, I was screaming at SWMBO to avoid every bump and pothole. Most frightening trip of my life!
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I had surgery on a delicate part of my anatomy, below the waist. On the journey home, I was screaming at SWMBO to avoid every bump and pothole. Most frightening trip of my life!
Many years ago I had the "chop" I had a very expensive reversal when I got married again.. (which did work)
1st op uncomfortable.
Reversal is something no sane man should ever consider.
Agony for weeks.
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>>Reversal is something no sane man should ever consider
I have always wondered about you, Old Rover Boy.
:o)
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The most painful after effects I have had involves man bits as well. (so painful I ended up projectile vomiting)
A TURBT - (TURBT): Transurethral resection of bladder tumor.
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"1st op uncomfortable."
Just out of interest ORB, but was it local or general? Mine was local and I rated it no worse than a trip to the dentist. At around the same time, my neighbour had his op under general and couldn't believe how brave I'd been!
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Just out of interest ORB, but was it local or general?
The chop was local
The reversal was General and when I woke up (it was a private hospital in Amman) The surgeon was there, and Mrs Orb as well as one of her friends she'd worked with in Obs/gynae in Amman and the friends husband also an OG specialist. Surgeon was pleased with his work..
I thought I'm in the wrong ward here !!!
The only nice bit was the lady coming round with the menu for the meals...
I was walking funny for a month afterwards..
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<< ... I have a 94 year old bionic mother in law ... >>
I suspect Mrs-AT may be more bionic than your M-i-L, Z. Last year she completed her full set - 2 hips, 2 knees and 2 shoulders. So far I have only got one ankle !
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Last edited by: Andrew-T on Wed 11 Mar 26 at 14:53
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Can't rationalise what I have seen in hospital - James Loveless
