This confuses me and before posting this, please don't accuse me of discrimination of any kind.
I'm a heterosexual male, married for 29 years, two kids (and a dog). At no point have I ever had sexual feelings for other guys.
I have friends who are gay, both males and females. All of them at various times have explained how they have always had these feelings and although in teenage years they felt pressurised into doing what society felt was "normal" , none of them felt comfortable with this and didn't pursue these relationships. Most of them kept it to themselves, just became that friend that had never really settled down with anyone and had thrown themselves into work. Or thats what we were led to believe but of course that wasn't the case.
What I cannot understand is how someone can go from heterosexual to gay? I could understand if they go bi (and maybe thats what Phil actually is). But how can you live with a wife and kids and presumably have normal sexual relations and then decide that you're gay? Has it all been a lie and hes been gay all along but what is definition of heterosexual? Surely he has pretty much ticked them all off? Or could he be thinking he is gay but in reality over last 30 years has proved he's not?
Can sexuality feelings change over the years from one sex to the other? Are these feelings maybe just the same as other preferences we have as humans whether it be political tendencies, favourite foods or drinks or whatever?
I am genuinely intigued by this.
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