My dad's been dead some 16 years now and i still miss him and mum, though i see him and his kindness honour honesty and stubborness in my son now 30.
I had 3 sons and a daughter, my eldest son kind gentle sensitive hard working took his own life some years ago aged 23 and if you want to know how long it takes to get over it, you don't..ever.
My youngest lad fell off the rails with various substances and i haven't seen him for many years, one of the reasons i have no mercy for drug dealers and pushers.
My daughter 24 is the youngest and a treasure.
It's lovely to see them grow up but very painful when you see them going wrong, harder still when they have your own inherited Cheshire/Irish stubborn nature and will do anything but follow advice.
My lad does float ideas past me, more so than when he was younger, though we regard each other with mutual respect and friendship as well as the father/son relationship, helping to steer them is a pleasure, my daughter bless her hasn't yet reached that stage.
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